Embodying Change
You are changing every minute of every
day. The whole point of the human experience is to evolve into the
most fully expressed version of yourself that you can achieve in
physical form and that requires consistent interaction with
constantly changing circumstances.
Change is not something that you do or
that happens to you; change is an inherent aspect of who you are.
Change cannot be directly observed. Change can only be recognized in
the reflection of who you choose to be in relation to external
circumstances that indicate that you are different in any given
moment.
Change is not optional and there is no
moment of your experience that does not involve change. Change is
inevitable and it is up to you how honestly and authentically you
participate with the circumstances that are continually pushing and
pulling at the edges of your perceived static version of reality.
You do not choose to change or prepare to change; you embody change.
You may imagine that you have a
choice about whether to change
You may imagine that you have a choice
about whether to change or not. This response is a result of being
uncomfortable in the realm of the unknown and believing that you
have control over circumstances or the actions of others which in
reality you do not. Setting goals helps you make sense of changes
that you are experiencing and gives you a context, but does not
dictate how the experience will play out.
Believing that you are in control of
external circumstances instead of trusting yourself to respond
appropriately to them is incredibly disempowering and causes you to
become rigid and unyielding in your responses rather than fluid and
adaptable. Attempting to be in control only serves to catapult you
in the exact direction that you are attempting to deny yourself
access to. This is a painfully disconnected and disempowered way to
live and results in generating more fear of the unknown and less
trust in your ability to navigate in unfamiliar circumstances.
Becoming more comfortable with the
unknown external changing reality and trusting that in each moment
you will know what to do is very different than anticipating that
you know what to expect and making a plan about how you will respond
in a future moment. You do not have all of the information required
to make that choice until you arrive in that moment. If you lock
yourself into the certainly that you do know and especially if you
insist on that stance regardless of any new and relevant
information, you are missing an opportunity.
True understanding leads inevitably
once again into unknown territory
You cannot ever get a handle on the
change that you embody and carry that certainty into the next
moment. It is simply not possible. Anytime that you imagine that you
have a full understanding of something about yourself, the next
inevitable moment plummets you once again into the unknown. It is
not possible to know anything for certain in a lasting way because
all true understanding leads inevitably once again into unknown
territory.
It would be useful to think of the
change that is intrinsic in your experience as a noun which reframes
your interpretation of change as descriptive, observing and
describing what is happening instead of as a verb requiring action.
This is not to say that action is not necessary, because it most
certainly is. We are suggesting that you stop trying to force
yourself or others in a direction that may not be in the best
interest for each of you. You must also avoid making the assumption
that you have any answers for anyone other than yourself.
You no longer have the luxury of
analyzing, over-thinking or intellectualizing what your options in
regard to change are. Time is moving too quickly now and by
hesitating when presented with changing circumstances, you are
reacting to change in an unconscious, disempowered manner. Being
reactive to change as opposed to responding proactively inevitably
forces you to confront the same choices in an infinite number of
moments until you embrace the power that you possess to directly
affect your experience.
You are eliminating the possibility
of miracles occurring in your life
In order to fully comprehend the scope
of change available to you as the opportunity that it is to achieve
the evolution that you desire, you must be able to see beyond your
fears and judgment of yourself and others. Fear and judgment are
extremely limiting and are in essence equal to wearing blinders.
When you are unwilling to see beyond what is known in any given
moment and allow the next moment to reveal innovative, previously
unconsidered possibilities, you remain in your current limited
structures of reality. You are essentially eliminating the
possibility of miracles occurring in your life.
You can only truly experience yourself
in the context of relationship; with yourself, with your friends and
family, with your life partner, with your co-workers and with
community, both local and global. You require the context of others
to authentically experience yourself in human form and the purpose
of change is to expand your experience of who you can be in the
world, particularly in relation to others.
Unfortunately, many of you have come
to the conclusion that the best way to experience yourself is as
separate from each other and you continually and consistently create
blocks and obstacle to true intimacy between yourself and others.
You do this in a myriad of ways including pursuing competitive or
co-dependent relationships. When you define who you are in relation
to someone else you inevitably lose your sense of self and your
ability to discern what choices are in alignment with who you are.
The ways in which you work alienate
you from each other
The ways in which you perpetuate
isolation at work include working at a job that numbs you out or
causes you to be defensive and hyper-vigilant about making mistakes
because you do not have the support and respect of your co-workers
and/or boss. Many of you also choose to work for less money than you
are worth and as a result spend more time working and less time in
personal exploration and interpersonal relationship development,
which only serves to further alienate you from each other.
Consequently you move even further away from the very interactions
that you require to truly experience yourself as the authentic,
empowered, loving person that you are.
In order to be able to fully express
who you are, you may have to learn some new communication
strategies. You may have to learn how to tell yourself the truth and
to recognize when you are not. You may have to develop the skills to
speak your truth to others without expectations of change from them.
You may have to learn how to listen to others and not take
responsibility for the choices they make. You may have to learn how
to discern what relationships are good for you and recognize those
that aren’t. You may need to find a counselor who can assist you in
rebuilding your self esteem.
It truly is a matter of redefining
your priorities and when you choose to be authentic with yourself
and by extension with others, you become vulnerable and your
defenses which are built into the above activities are no longer
needed. Consider the possibility that the goal is not to effectively
defend yourself, but to create circumstances where defenses are not
needed because you are loved and supported unconditionally in
virtually all aspects of your life.
You can begin to dance with change
not orchestrate it
With the ongoing acceleration of
energy which will continue to increase exponentially between now and
2012, how you change can no longer be planned, organized and
executed. The opportunities to experience change occur far too
quickly to allow for that kind of lag time. It is no longer
necessary to strive for change. It is more useful to recognize that
change in inevitable and cultivate the trust in yourself to know how
to respond authentically from who you are in any given moment. When
you consistently respond to changing circumstances in accordance
with you are you begin to dance with change as opposed to attempting
to orchestrate it.
