You are changing every minute of every day. The whole point of the human experience is to evolve into the most fully expressed version of yourself that you can achieve in physical form and that requires consistent interaction with constantly changing circumstances.
Change is not something that you do or that happens to you; change is an inherent aspect of who you are. Change cannot be directly observed. Change can only be recognized in the reflection of who you choose to be in relation to external circumstances that indicate that you are different in any given moment.
Change is not optional and there is no moment of your experience that does not involve change. Change is inevitable and it is up to you how honestly and authentically you participate with the circumstances that are continually pushing and pulling at the edges of your perceived static version of reality. You do not choose to change or prepare to change; you embody change.
You may imagine that you have a choice about whether to change
You may imagine that you have a choice about whether to change or not. This response is a result of being uncomfortable in the realm of the unknown and believing that you have control over circumstances or the actions of others which in reality you do not. Setting goals helps you make sense of changes that you are experiencing and gives you a context, but does not dictate how the experience will play out.
Believing that you are in control of external circumstances instead of trusting yourself to respond appropriately to them is incredibly disempowering and causes you to become rigid and unyielding in your responses rather than fluid and adaptable. Attempting to be in control only serves to catapult you in the exact direction that you are attempting to deny yourself access to. This is a painfully disconnected and disempowered way to live and results in generating more fear of the unknown and less trust in your ability to navigate in unfamiliar circumstances.
Becoming more comfortable with the unknown external changing reality and trusting that in each moment you will know what to do is very different than anticipating that you know what to expect and making a plan about how you will respond in a future moment. You do not have all of the information required to make that choice until you arrive in that moment. If you lock yourself into the certainly that you do know and especially if you insist on that stance regardless of any new and relevant information, you are missing an opportunity.
True understanding leads inevitably once again into unknown territory
You cannot ever get a handle on the change that you embody and carry that certainty into the next moment. It is simply not possible. Anytime that you imagine that you have a full understanding of something about yourself, the next inevitable moment plummets you once again into the unknown. It is not possible to know anything for certain in a lasting way because all true understanding leads inevitably once again into unknown territory.
It would be useful to think of the change that is intrinsic in your experience as a noun which reframes your interpretation of change as descriptive, observing and describing what is happening instead of as a verb requiring action. This is not to say that action is not necessary, because it most certainly is. We are suggesting that you stop trying to force yourself or others in a direction that may not be in the best interest for each of you. You must also avoid making the assumption that you have any answers for anyone other than yourself.
You no longer have the luxury of analyzing, over-thinking or intellectualizing what your options in regard to change are. Time is moving too quickly now and by hesitating when presented with changing circumstances, you are reacting to change in an unconscious, disempowered manner. Being reactive to change as opposed to responding proactively inevitably forces you to confront the same choices in an infinite number of moments until you embrace the power that you possess to directly affect your experience.
You are eliminating the possibility of miracles occurring in your life
In order to fully comprehend the scope of change available to you as the opportunity that it is to achieve the evolution that you desire, you must be able to see beyond your fears and judgment of yourself and others. Fear and judgment are extremely limiting and are in essence equal to wearing blinders. When you are unwilling to see beyond what is known in any given moment and allow the next moment to reveal innovative, previously unconsidered possibilities, you remain in your current limited structures of reality. You are essentially eliminating the possibility of miracles occurring in your life.
You can only truly experience yourself in the context of relationship; with yourself, with your friends and family, with your life partner, with your co-workers and with community, both local and global. You require the context of others to authentically experience yourself in human form and the purpose of change is to expand your experience of who you can be in the world, particularly in relation to others.
Unfortunately, many of you have come to the conclusion that the best way to experience yourself is as separate from each other and you continually and consistently create blocks and obstacle to true intimacy between yourself and others. You do this in a myriad of ways including pursuing competitive or co-dependent relationships. When you define who you are in relation to someone else you inevitably lose your sense of self and your ability to discern what choices are in alignment with who you are.
The ways in which you work alienate you from each other
The ways in which you perpetuate isolation at work include working at a job that numbs you out or causes you to be defensive and hyper-vigilant about making mistakes because you do not have the support and respect of your co-workers and/or boss. Many of you also choose to work for less money than you are worth and as a result spend more time working and less time in personal exploration and interpersonal relationship development, which only serves to further alienate you from each other. Consequently you move even further away from the very interactions that you require to truly experience yourself as the authentic, empowered, loving person that you are.
In order to be able to fully express who you are, you may have to learn some new communication strategies. You may have to learn how to tell yourself the truth and to recognize when you are not. You may have to develop the skills to speak your truth to others without expectations of change from them. You may have to learn how to listen to others and not take responsibility for the choices they make. You may have to learn how to discern what relationships are good for you and recognize those that aren’t. You may need to find a counselor who can assist you in rebuilding your self esteem.
It truly is a matter of redefining your priorities and when you choose to be authentic with yourself and by extension with others, you become vulnerable and your defenses which are built into the above activities are no longer needed. Consider the possibility that the goal is not to effectively defend yourself, but to create circumstances where defenses are not needed because you are loved and supported unconditionally in virtually all aspects of your life.
You can begin to dance with change not orchestrate it
With the ongoing acceleration of energy which will continue to increase exponentially as we move forward in linear time, how you change can no longer be planned, organized and executed. The opportunities to experience change occur far too quickly to allow for that kind of lag time. It is no longer necessary to strive for change. It is more useful to recognize that change in inevitable and cultivate the trust in yourself to know how to respond authentically from who you are in any given moment. When you consistently respond to changing circumstances in accordance with you are you begin to dance with change as opposed to attempting to orchestrate it.